Personal Growth

Why You Sabotage Yourself and Several Ways to Stop

Are you your own worst enemy?  If so, I bet you are self sabotaging almost every day.  This is not what you want to be doing because it feels bad.  It’s impossible to build a satisfying relationship if you don’t stop sabotaging yourself.  It makes dating more difficult.  Let me help you stop hitting your …

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Online Dating: A Matter of Time and It Takes Time. Maximize Your Time by…

Few people do Online Dating for a short period of time.  Most spend hours and hours searching.  It can take months and even years to find the right fit.  What can you do to stop wasting time and find your person faster!  First keep reading!  I have some really good suggestions!   My clients are very busy …

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I’m A Dating Coach, Not A Matchmaker!

Dating Coaching is NOT Matchmaking!  Frequently I tell someone I’m a Dating Coach and they think I’m a matchmaker.  Yesterday it happened and I knew I needed to explain the difference.  In case you didn’t read my last blog, I’m enthusiastically entering into Dating Coaching.   It came about organically (see last paragraph) which I believe …

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How to stop suppressing your discontent and start doing something about it

When someone says they are unhappy why don’t they do something about it?  As their friend  you offer suggestions which seem to fall on deaf ears.  Over time you get frustrated and even angry.  You feel helpless to influence them and possibly worried at the same time.   Not doing something doesn’t make sense.  What …

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My Life Became A Lot Better When… Hint: That’s not it!

Are bad feelings necessary for a better life?  I wish it wasn’t true and I’m also glad it is.   If you always felt fine you wouldn’t be motivated to have more of what makes you happy.  It’s a good thing that it’s impossible to feel good all the time.  Pain leads to Gain!  What I’m …

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When You Wish Something Wasn’t True…But It Is. What Do You Do?

You are excited about a new opportunity.  Your life is going to be so much better.  Then down the road you realize this too isn’t the right fit.  It’s hard to acknowledge that you are unhappy.  How do you handle this stressful situation?  What will make it easier?  You wish you could change the way …

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Why You Want To Tell Someone They Hurt You and How To Do It

Your feelings are hurt by someone you care about.  You wonder if you should say something or if it will somehow make things worse.  When done the right way there is no downside.  It’s important that they know in order to keep enjoying your relationship.   I’ve learned that when I don’t speak up I’m …

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The Benefits of Being Courageous and How To Do It

Being Courageous means doing something you are afraid will hurt you in some way.  Before your bravery kicks in you go back and forth between I want to and no I don’t.  Don’t fret if this goes on for a while.  Sometimes that’s necessary for finally doing it with confidence and conviction.  You have opportunities …

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Why We Ignore Red Flags and How to Stop It!

Deciding who to work for or date is a big deal.  You know how important it is to feel like you and the other person are a good fit.  In my work as a Business and Life Coach I am constantly emphasizing the importance of relationship selection and Not Ignoring The Red Flags! Why Do You …

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I Used To Feel All Alone Until…

When you’re really down or discouraged it’s tempting to feel sorry for yourself.  You believe that nobody can fully understand what you are going through.   If you shut down in self pity I can tell you first hand that you will feel worse.  Getting out of a negative emotional place is not easy but …

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How To Stop Putting Up With Something That Feels Bad

Everyone has something—something that they don’t like but tolerate. What’s yours? Are you ready to do something about it?  Are you okay with being a little uncomfortable? If you put up with something, you tolerate or accept it, even though you find it unpleasant or unsatisfactory. Your partner or colleague is constantly correcting or criticizing …

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How to Become Better at Saying What You Are Afraid to Say

You say you can’t and yet you know you can.  What does it take to say something you are afraid to say?  Do you believe the better person doesn’t get upset and if they do they pretend they aren’t.  I hope you agree that this sounds awful and certainly not authentic.  It makes it impossible …

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